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betrayal trauma

Discovering that your partner has hidden a series of sexual and/or emotional secrets shatters your sense of reality. The shock and confusion of being intentionally misled is perhaps the most painful experiences we can endure as humans because it destroys the trust and safety we have in our primary relationship.

Betrayal trauma refers to the range of emotional and psychological responses that arise when one partner breaks the trust in a relationship without the other partner's knowledge or consent.

Learning that your partner has kept sexual and/or emotional secrets disrupts the foundation of a relationship to it's core. If this is what you have experience, it can be hard to know where to turn or who to trust, you will likely have many questions, but where do you start?

Your ability to survive and heal from this is dependant on the support that you are able to wrap around your self early, through therapy, resources, community and a solid step by step plan.

There is a way through this, and you don’t have to face it alone.

Michelle Mays (2024)

"My wish for every betrayed partner is that they can make the decision to stay or leave from a place of clarity, freedom from fear and freedom from shame."

step 1.

Individual therapy

This is an early and important first step to gain individual support to cope with the immediate aftermath and devastation of discovery of betrayal. A safe place to cope with the rush to emotion and work through the shock and questions.

step 2.

Reliable Resources

Betrayal is a profoundly disorienting experience, shaking the very foundation of what you believed to be true. It forces you to question everything—your past, present, and future. In the aftermath, gaining insight, understanding, and the tools to navigate this turmoil becomes essential for survival. It's important to turn to trusted sources of information rather than relying on general internet searches.

step 3.

Zoom support Group

One of the most common responses to betrayal is exhaustion and isolation. Relationships with friends and family can shift overnight, becoming complicated and strained. For many, finding a stand alone community of others who are at various stages of this journey and can offer wisdom and support becomes a crucial lifeline.

step 4.

A personalised plan

Betrayal throws life into chaos, causing everything to change in an instant. Figuring out where to turn and who to trust requires immense courage and effort, making every decision feel like a challenge.